At one time or another, most people experience that horrible time when the one we think we love, suddenly and without a warning, informs us they either never loved us or they now love someone else. It is probably the most devastating thing that can take place in any relationship.
I remember the first time I experienced that feeling and it was back in the 4th grade, (I know, how can you know what love is in the fourth grade) There was a young girl in my class that was the most beautiful thing I have ever seen. During recess, I couldn’t keep my eyes off of her and whenever she spoke to me, I became a wet noodle. I would hear other boys say they ‘loved’ a certain girl and not wanting to sound not cool, I soon said I too loved this one girl, though in all reality, I had no idea what it meant to say you loved someone. After much coaxing, I got up the courage to ask this pretty young girl if he would go steady with me ( brings back a lot of memories right). To my surprise, she said she too liked me and she would agree to go steady with me. I don’t remember what took place the rest of that day or even walking home from school; all I knew was that I was ‘in love’ and the one I was ‘in love with’ also loved me too. (Sounds like a mushy story)
It wasn’t very long after we became ‘an item’ that she invited me to her birthday party. I was ecstatic to think she invited me to her birthday party and I counted the days till that day came. My mother picked out a nice present for me to take and with my head held high, I began the walk to her home, she didn’t live very far from my home. Everyone knew we were ‘an item’ and when I arrived I noticed another boy getting too friendly with my girl and her responding back to him. As the party progressed, I gave her my present but noticed her attention was suddenly on this other boy. I was a pretty skinny boy at that time and would never look to fight anyone but now my temper was raging and I got stupid and confronted my girl and this boy as they were spending a lot of time together. It was at that moment she looked at me and said, “I like Dale a lot more than you and I am going to break with you and go steady with him.” To make matters worse, Dale suddenly jumped on me and began punching me all over. He gave a bloody nose and all the other kids just stood back and laughed. Her parents soon broke up the fight and I left the party with my head hung low and a tissue up to my now bloody nose. I thought I would never get over this young girl but as always, life went on.
Having someone suddenly say they don’t love you after they once declared they did is the most painful experience to have. I know that silly breakup back in the fourth grade, of what I thought was a love relationship, messed me up and it left a wound in my heart that really needed healing. One day iI found myself in a church service and the call was given for those who wanted to know the ‘unfailing love’ of the Lord in their life. I wondered how could Almighty God ever love me after all the bad things I had done and could I trust that He would never go back on saying He loved me?
I read where Jesus said in John 15:9 “As the Father has loved Me, so have I loved you. Now remain in My love.” Could it be true the Lord would love me with the same love as the Father loved Him, in spite of all the mistakes I continue to make? Then I read what the Apostle Paul said in Romans 8:38-39 “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons neither present nor the future, nor any other powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord” I didn’t totally understand that but I took that promise and hid it in my heart. The Lord loves us with an unfailing love and will never dump us for anything or anyone else!!
No matter who rejected your love in life, be convinced in your heart there is One, Jesus Christ our Lord, who will never reject you and will always mean it when He says “I Love YOU!!!”
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